Sometimes it’s not a huge, dramatic leap that changes our lives, but one small first step towards recovery that triggers an inner and outer transformation.
Today’s guest is Theo Bill. He is an entrepreneur and life coach who used to be overweight due to his emotional eating and a bottle-a-night wine habit. In 2015, Theo was in the middle of a stressful move, facing the possible bankruptcy of his company, and the crumbling of his 9-year relationship. He knew he wasn’t in a life-threatening situation, but he still wondered, when everything was falling apart, what was the point of getting up in the morning?
Theo knew he wasn’t strong enough to quit drinking, but he did make one small decision that created a domino effect new habits and behaviors that completely transformed his life. Now he is happy, successful, and has something he never dreamed possible—six-pack abs!
Listen to how gain momentum from small steps towards your recovery in this show!
This is about me, Theo Bill. And I’m not a bunch of facts and figures – in fact none of us is, I believe. We are our story though, and this is mine:
According to psychologists, some of the most stressful events in someone’s life is moving, divorce, and job loss. In 2015 I had moved my home AND business, and had made the decision to end a 9 year relationship. I nearly hit a trifecta! But I was also facing the impending bankruptcy of my company, so call it 3 out of 3. That I didn’t develop some awful disease, have a heart attack, or commit suicide is a miracle (although I certainly contemplated why I should bother going on).
I had the brilliant idea to rent a cabin in Lake Tahoe for my birthday for a romantic getaway. I figured if I could work on my marriage, it would be the foundation for all else. It was a beautiful place – wood lined walls, a big, beautiful loft, a hot tub outside – a perfect place to watch the stars from, especially when you’re more than a mile above sea level.
Let me backup a bit here…my ex and I had been going through a lot over the last year. We were moving our farm, business, and home to a new town about 5 hours to the east. Up and over the coastal mountains of northern California to the central valley – a much better environment for our business to thrive.
The entire move took nearly a year.
So….fast forward to my actual birthDAY and we’re talking about our relationship, our marriage – the culmination of 9 years of being together. Lots had happened over the last year – a lot of pain and anger, and a lot of exciting changes too. But that day we were only talking about what had held us together for the last 9 years – our love and ability to see past anything in the other.
And it happened.
We said the words – “It’s over.”
What a birthday present! Ha!
But in actuality it was a magnificent present. I don’t know that I’ve gotten a better one in my entire life. But I sure didn’t know it at the time!
You see, my body was in a shambles. I was 40 pounds heavier and had a 40 inch waist. I was drinking more than a bottle of wine (all by myself) each night to try and dull the pain and loneliness I was feeling inside. On top of that I was still eating pretty rich farm food – a lot of eggs, tons of (homemade) bread, pork from our pigs, and just in general not moving around much despite living on the farm.
When someone sees me for the first time now though they get a certain impression. I get asked how long I’ve been training, and most people are pretty surprised it isn’t a lot longer than it is. I’m grateful I’ve been able to make the improvements in my health and body that I have, but I’ve also worked really hard for it – and now I’m hooked!
I grew up as a scrawny, dorky, buck-toothed geek with glasses (aka “four eyes”)! I’m sure you know (or knew) the type. In fact I was in no better (probably much worse) shape at 38 than I was at 14! But when my waist size suddenly matched my age, I knew I had to do something soon or I’d be staring at a heart attack or worse.
If you looked at my life from the outside – happily married for 9 years, owning and running a successful 7 figure business, and the excitement of a new town, you would have thought I would be living a great life.
But I was way past my threshold of what I could tolerate. It’s important in life to know your comfort thresholds – and I was WAAAAY past mine! Instead of dealing with the stress in a healthy way, I let my stress get the better of me. I kept holding out for “things will get better.” The eternal (drunk) optimist!
Back to Lake Tahoe – When I was smacked in the face with reality, I had no option other than to take a pretty hard look at my life.
It’s funny how life works sometimes.
And what I saw wasn’t great. It was pretty dismal actually. I’m grateful I never got to the point of contemplating suicide seriously, but there were some moments that I thought it would be easier to be through with this life, that’s for sure.
One of the first things I did was to start reading – about body AND mind – what I was going through psychologically, but also I wanted to learn how to rebuild my health.
I get asked by a lot of folks what did I do, where did I get my training – can I train them, etc… And I offer tips and suggestions as I can, but I always thought – there are people out there way more qualified than me to help these people.
Until a good friend finally convinced me that I did have something to offer – especially to people just like me.
So many people in this life get convinced that they can’t do something. And the saddest part is it’s their own doubt, shame, and inexperience that is in the driver’s seat. I’m absolutely convinced that if someone has the desire, the knowledge, and the tools to form new habits, you can do just about anything!
Having founded, scaled, and exited from a successful 7-figure ecommerce company, Theo brings over 20 years of business experience in branding, web design, marketing, finance, systems, and management.
His passion around helping others succeed and live a life of joy and happiness led him to create Coaching MBA. He considers coaches to be true Superheros – being able to rescue others from the depths of depression and and self-hatred into a life of love, compassion, and connectedness.
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