In this modern age, we have everything at our fingertips. We are wealthier, healthier, and freer than ever before.

So how come so many of us are so miserable? Why do we feel the constant urge to look for things outside ourselves—like people, possessions, and addictions—to fill the void?

There is one underlying addiction that is the mother of all addictions and that is the addiction to the self.—Rabbi Manis Friedman

Today’s guest is Rabbi Manis Friedman. He says we all have an addiction to the self. We’re born with it.

If we outgrow it successfully, we become mature people.

If we don’t, we’ll be stuck.

And even if we get rid of any acquired addiction, we will still have this curse—the addiction to the self.

So how do we go beyond our own primal needs to feel at peace in our lives and with ourselves?

Find out in this episode!

Why Are We Here?

At the most fundamental level, we don’t ask to be born. We are put here and are suddenly responsible for ourselves. We never signed up to get a job, pay bills, buy stuff, have kids, and die so the next generation can repeat the same pointless process. We realize we never wanted this life and that we do not need it either.

So what is the point of our existence?

Rabbi Manis Friedman says that if we’re not here because of our need, then we are a result of someone else’s need. We’re under the impression we’re the needy ones. But we are the needed ones.

We are needed by God.

But we orbit in our own space, disconnected. We drift and feel alone in the world, operating according to our needs, drives, weaknesses, passions, and fears. We can’t find a justification to be alive, so we seek constant stimulation in material possessions, love, sex, validation, and addiction.

The Rabbi goes in-depth into how we can break free from this narcissistic mindset, how marriage is the key to sacred connection and a sense of “home” for our souls, and how we can detach from our self-centeredness to discover what we are are needed for and why.

Rabbi Manis Friedman

RABBI MANIS FRIEDMAN is a world-renowned author, counselor, teacher, and speaker, well known for his provocative and incisive wit and wisdom. His first book, Doesn’t Anyone Blush Anymore? (published by Harper San Francisco), was widely praised by the media.

Rabbi Friedman’s international speaking tours, seminars, and retreats take him around the world, and he has been featured on CNN, A&E Reviews, PBS, and BBC Worldwide as well as in such publications as The New York Times, Rolling Stone, Seventeen, Guideposts, and Publishers Weekly. He also hosted his own critically acclaimed cable television series syndicated throughout North America.

Rabbi Friedman is the dean of Bais Chana Institute of Jewish Studies, which he cofounded in 1971, and the founder of It’s Good to Know, a nonprofit life-learning foundation based in New York City. He lives with his family in St. Paul, Minnesota.

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